Human beings are imperfect. We always have been and always will be; it just comes down to how we perceive our imperfections. One may view them as something to feel ashamed of or embarrassed about, while others may view them as opportunities for growth and self-improvement. But if imperfections are bound to exist, why feel ashamed?
A very common way of masking imperfections is to make oneself look like who or what they want to be, instead of working towards actually becoming that person. But why? Why live behind a facade instead of pursuing true change? Maybe because we value the perceptions of others too much; a natural feeling in a society where our desire to belong often drives our decisions.
With modern-day technology came social media: a variety of platforms to portray ourselves however we would like. Does that make social media “bad” or “unhealthy”? To claim social media is objectively bad for us would be a bold statement. At the end of the day, social media is simply a platform where users can follow one another and see each others’ posts; whether it be pictures or text. The utility of the platform completely falls on the user.
Unfortunately, with social media came a new potential to spiral down a dark path. Social media has transformed many individuals into slaves to their egos and personas. We so often see people fake their happiness not only on social media, but in real life as well. However, it is not uncommon for people to prioritize the happiness of their “social media self” over that of their personal life. But why? Why on earth would we value other people thinking we’re happy over actually being happy? Perhaps we fall into the misconception that by being liked by a lot of people, we’ll feel better about ourselves. We often see so many people put things on a pedestal, believing that once it’s achieved they’ll feel happy. Ultimately, they come to feel let down and see that what they valued so much and worked for every day wasn’t what they thought it’d be.
Everybody wants to be happy and live a life filled with joy. Unfortunately, we so often value the wrong things in hope that they’ll bring us happiness. Failed attempts in finding happiness, however, don’t have to be viewed as “wasted” time and energy, as we are only human and are bound to make mistakes. It’s all about growing from them and moving forward, better and stronger. I hope that we can face our struggles, insecurities, and past traumas head-on, whether it be through talking to a trusted friend or family member, seeing a therapist, adopting a healthier lifestyle, or cutting off people who bring us down. I hope you can finally achieve the happiness you desire and deserve. I hope you no longer choose to fake your happiness, because it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to feel broken and seek help.
And most importantly, I hope you find the happiness you pretend to have.